Finding Balance: Vacation vs. Travel

Remi and I have set up camp in DaNang, Vietnam, for a luxuriously long Diwali trip of 13 nights. We're embarking on what I'd like to clearly distinguish as a vacation, not travel. The boys are set to join us on the tenth day and stay a few extra days, stretching the boundaries of their school and work breaks. It's not an ideal arrangement, but it's a compromise that works best for our family.

In this short post, I'd like to share my musings on the difference between vacation and travel. For the moment, Remi and I are blissfully immersed in vacation mode. Nestled in a resort that has it all, from a kids club to a spa, we've happily stayed within its boundaries, with tentative plans to explore a nearby island and try some snorkeling.

Vacation for us is a time for 'Onthaasten,' a Dutch word with no direct English translation, signifying the act of slowing down and intentionally doing nothing. We're letting the days unfurl naturally, guided by Remi's whims. Today, we've been stationed at the beach for over an hour, simply enjoying the sight of her playing in the sand and surf. We're free from schedules, and we're living fully in the moment, flowing with our whims.

Travel, on the other hand, presents a different narrative. Ken and I are seasoned travelers, but rarely ever vacationers. In over eight years together, I can count our vacations on one hand, yet our passport pages tell tales of extensive journeys. However, maintaining the pace of travel with the youngest can be challenging and can sometimes lead to unmet expectations.

When Remi and I journeyed to Borneo earlier this year, I made a conscious effort to blend vacation with travel. This balance ensured we maximized our energy and minimized potential meltdowns.

As this vacation unfolds, Remi and I are relishing the freedom and relaxation it brings. From leisurely mornings to unhurried afternoons, we're embracing the art of 'Onthaasten,' slowing down and intentionally doing nothing. Each moment is a gift, a chance to connect and create core memories. Through shared laughter, spontaneous songs, and unhurried conversations, we're not just spending time together, we're bonding. This vacation is reminding us that the joy of life lies not in the destination, but in the journey and the company we keep.

Both vacationing and traveling have their unique pros and cons, and striking a balance is key. Exclusively traveling can sometimes drain the joy from a trip, while solely vacationing might leave you craving more adventure and experiences. So, aim for a blend of both vacation and travel, and make the most of your time away.